Blogging for LGBT Families Day

Hello All:
I hope to get a new round of readers soon during the upcoming LGBT families Bloggers event. This is why I am sitting here this beautiful Memorial Day listening to the Indigo Girls and getting back in touch with writing on my blog about being a Queer woman of color raising two kids with my wife of almost 12 years. I began writing this blog in hopes of exploring, no maybe more dissecting through writing how we live our lives given that no blueprint has been set out for us.

Parenting is no easy task, and I never thought it would be. Some of the things I think are unique to same-sex parents that need to be talked about, dealt with, resolved, and supported, are 1-we constantly are thinking about how people will view our family. 2-we have to remind our children that not all families have a mom and a dad. 3-we have to remind people in the community that not all families have a mom and a dad. 4-people question how we came to be parents. 5-people don't monitor themselves when saying things like "wow your kid looks nothing like you." 6-Canada is much more queer family friendly than the States. 7-we are often the only kind of our family in most places we go (unless it's a queer family event and even then we are often the only POC present). 8-people still expect that one parent is the mom and the other is the dad.

These are certainly just a few things of course. As a woman of color, I often have the feeling that when people see our family they are assuming we are single moms, unfortunately a reality in our communities. I find it hardest for me to be out in the POC community, but I think that's because I just don't know other queer parents of color-at all. Here lies the reason for this blog-to connect with families like mine. I suspect many other LBGT POC parents who are spread across the States or elsewhere might be looking too.

I know we exist-and I hope you reach out to me to let me know you're here via email

Thanks to the Mombian blog I can at least participate in something like this. I think this blogging event is very important given that I have found several other bloggers I visit often via this event last year and I have made a great many connections via the Internet world to other LGBT parents.

I hope to write more as soon as my kids give me a moment to breathe. Cuidate mi gente. Peace.

Healthcare for Children, Latino music, beautiful day, ah?

I happened upon the NY Times editorial for this Sunday about Bushie's attempts to dismantle and diminish the Child Health Plus insurance made available to working class folks in this country. The Times rightfully notes that decreasing the funds will only make more CHILDREN be without health care, and as we already know, too many of these are poor and working class people of color. Why is Bushie so intent on taking away the little help that CHiP provides to parents who cannot afford the high cost of health insurance? He rather us pay out the wazoo health insurance premiums that are out of control. If anything, CHiP needs more money, and more coverage should be afforded to folks who might be without children, working at low-waged jobs. One of the things I can "thank" PA for is allowing me to at least apply for and be accepted to their health coverage for single poor adults, even if I did have to go on a waiting list for almost a year. I mean, it is totally ridiculous! Here is today's NY Times Editorial


I still haven't recovered from Rumba 104.5's move to the AM dial particularly since I cannot get the frequency at home which means I can only listen to grainy Latin music in my car radio-(damn that's messed up!) I've been trolling the Internet for Latino music-any music to satiate my need for a little Latin sound. I found a very good site called Onda Tropical which has reviews of funky music. I have also revisited my old music on Itunes and on CDs (which are gathering dust these days) and have rediscovered Marc Anthony, Celia Cruz, Daddy Yankee, Aterciopelados, Timbalada, and my other eclectic bunch from the Global South.


It's been quite gorgeous these days, which is bringing back memories of a couple of years ago when I was getting ready for the arrival of my little man. My ladyfriend/wife was so beautiful and glowing and round, and it was such a happy moment in my life. I adore my sweet boy, and I'm glad I didn't have to pop him out! His bday is coming up-I can't wait till he too becomes excited for his special day.